Romo Handy, the Buddhist priest who's performing our marriage ceremony, emailed the liturgy - what he and we will say and what happens. It seems pretty good.
Definite Western influence. Equality of the sexes. Some of the wording reminds me of Richard Baker's version. Like many people, I don't like having to speak sentimental stuff in public and I'm sure I'll choke up trying to say my lines. Ugh. That can happen to me reading something vaguely moving or watching a TV ad. I'm thinking about recording my lines, having them broadcast from a hidden speaker, and lip synching them. Do you think anyone would notice?
Here is how it came. We'll make some small changes and I'll offer to make a few grammar corrections if they wish.:
THE CELEBRATION OF MARRIAGE FOR
AND
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Led by : ________________________________
Place : ________________________________
Date : ________________________________
Time : ________________________________
THE WELCOME
Family
members and friends, and distinguished guests
On
behalf of …………………………. & ……………………….., I welcome you.
Namo
Buddhaya.
……………………
& ………………… have invited us
To
share in the celebration of their marriage
And to be a part of their wedding ceremony
Each one of you here today
Has been chosen as witnesses to the sharing of the
vows
To be taken by them both.
We have gathered here to join this couple in a
relationship
In which the independence is equal
The dependence mutual
And the obligation reciprocal
Marriage is the joining of two people,
Mind to mind, body to body, and true nature to true
nature
You give up your small selves and share trust each
other
THE RITES
Commencing the holy matrimony,
Five candles shall be lit on The Buddha’s altar
First, the blue candle representing Devotion,
Lit by …………………………...’s father. (groom)
Followed by the yellow candle representing Wisdom,
Lit by ……………………………’s mother. (groom)
Then, the white candle representing Purity,
Lit by ……………………………’s father. (bride)
Next, the orange candle representing Enthusiasm,
Lit by ……………………………’s mother. (bride)
Lastly, the red candle representing Love,
Lit by the Pandita.
DECLARATION OF INTENTIONS.
Ladies and gentlemen, the distinguished guests, before
conducting the holy matrimony further, I would ask the marrying couple:
To both of you, do you have any objections, threats or
duress that obstructing you in doing this holy matrimony … ?
No, I don’t
……………………………, do you take …………………….. to be your lawful
wife in accordance of Buddhist rites ?
( I do)
……………………………., do you take ………………………… to be your lawful
husband in accordance of Buddhist rites ?
( I do)
Ladies and gentlemen, the distinguished guests, since
there is no objection and both of them are willing to take each other as
husband and wife, then I will conduct the ceremony.
THE PRAYER.
The Three Jewels are the foundations of Buddhist
Tradition and practice, that are Buddha,
Dharma (the teaching) and Sangha
(the community of holy disciples).
……………………………… and ……………………………. Please take the incense
sticks, and repeat the salutation chants toward The Three Jewels after me, word
by word.
ARAHANG SAMMA SAMBUDDHO BHAGAWA
BUDDHANG BHAGAWANTANG ABHIWADEMI
(Bow the body, for giving honor and prostration to
Buddha, The Awakened)
SWAKKHATO BHAGAVATA DHAMMO
DHAMMANG NAMASSAMI
(Bow the body, for giving honor and prostration to
Dhamma, The Teaching)
SUPATIPANNO BHAGAVATO SAVAKA SANGGHO
SANGGHANG NAMAMI
(Bow the body, for giving honor and prostration to Sangha,
the community of holy disciples)
(Assistant will take incense sticks and put them on
the altar)
THE VOWS.
……………………..………. & ……...…………………… , it is now your
time to declare your wedding vows.
………………...........……., please take the incense and
repeat the vows word by word after me.
NAMO TASSA
BHAGAWATO ARAHATO SAMMA SAMBUDDHASSA.
I, …………...….……… take you ……………...……….. to be my wife,
my partner in life. I will cherish our union and love you more each day. I will
trust you and respect you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad,
regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand, my heart
and my love from this day forward. Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu …………………
Next, ……………………………………. Please take the incense and
repeat the vows word by word after me.
NAMO TASSA
BHAGAWATO ARAHATO SAMMA SAMBUDDHASSA.
I, ……………......…… take you ………...…………….. to be my
husband, my partner in life. I will cherish our union and love you more each
day. I will trust you and respect you, loving you faithfully through good times
and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I give you my hand,
my heart and my love from this day forward. Sadhu, sadhu, sadhu …………………
GIVING
AND RECEIVING THE RINGS.
Now before exchanging the rings, let us pray together.
The infinite love in the universe, we hope that the
love between ………………………….. & ……………………….. would forever remain unbroken, as
the rings, which they will give and receive in your name.
………………………….., please repeat after me as you place the
ring on ……………………. finger.
…………………….., I give you this ring as a symbol of our
marriage, and of the vows which we have made today. With all that I am and all
that I have, I honor you forever more.
………………………….., please repeat after me as you place the
ring on ……………………. finger.
………………….…., I give you this ring as a symbol of our
marriage, and of the vows which we have made today. With all that I am and all
that I have, I honor you forever more.
THE
BLESSING.
The bride right palm meet the groom left palm, then
the Pandita shall bind/tie their thumbs with the red ribbon.
The parents will cover the couple with yellow cloth.
The Pandita recite the blessing in the Sanskrit words
and spatter the marrying couple with holy water. After the Sanskrit recitation,
Pandita shall give them the marriage advice according to the Buddha teaching.
The couple parents open the yellow cloth cover
and Pandita open the ribbon tying.
THE
PRESENTATION OF AMISA DANA.
The couple offer the amisa dana to Pandita. Amisa Dana
is a bundle of incense sticks, red candle, sticks of flower and donation (if
the couple wish to do it).
PROCLAIMATION
OF THE MARRIAGE.
The couple are facing each other and hold hand in
hand.
By the authority committed to me as a Buddhist
Pandita, I, Pandita Madya Handy Prasetya, in the name of Buddha, Dhamma and
Sanggha, proclaim that ………………………………….. & …………………………………….. are now husband
and wife. ……………………..……… You may now kiss
your wife.
THE
CLOSING PRAYER.
Shall we pray to The Three Jewels :
ARAHANG SAMMA SAMBUDDHO BHAGAWA
BUDDHANG BHAGAWANTANG ABHIWADEMI
(Bow the body, for giving honor and prostration to
Buddha, the awakened)
SWAKKHATO BHAGAVATA DHAMMO
DHAMMANG NAMASSAMI
(Bow the body, for giving honor and prostration to
Dhamma (the teaching)
SUPATIPANNO BHAGAVATO SAVAKA SANGGHO
SANGGHANG NAMAMI
(Bow the body, for giving honor and prostration to Sangha
(the community of holy disciples)
……………………………….. & …………………………………, now I invite you
and your two witnesses to sign the certificate of marriage.
THE
WALKOUT.
Ladies and gentlemen, I present you Mr. & Mrs.
…………………………………………
