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Tuesday, December 1, 2020

Marriage

Alan Winter: Docho Roshi, how can we make our marriage with Buddha more real?

SR: More real [laughs, laughter]? That is a good question. Marriage is not so real [laughs, laughter]. I agree with you. So if you want to have real marriage, you should polish yourself, and you should try to relate yourself to someone else whether your friend is man or a woman. Your wife should be your lover on one hand and someone who is quite independent from you. That is your wife. Wife is some human being which you don't know, some usual person which has nothing to do with you. And at the same time, she will be your friend, or your best friend, and someone who you love most. Your wife has two sides -- just ordinary an person and someone who you love. Okay? 
       --------------------------- Excerpt from Shunryu Suzuki lecture 68-11-11 as found on shunryusuzuki.com. Edited by DC  - Going through Suzuki lectures and posting anything that can stand on its own. Not looking for zingers or "the best of." I find that following these excerpts daily provides another way to experience Suzuki's teaching. - DC [DC comment - I think maybe Suzuki just heard "marriage" and not "with Buddha."]