Alan Winter: Docho Roshi, how can we make our
marriage with Buddha more real?
SR: More real [laughs, laughter]? That is a good question. Marriage is not so
real [laughs, laughter]. I agree with you. So if you want to have real
marriage, you should polish yourself, and you should try to relate yourself to
someone else whether your friend is man or a woman. Your wife should be your
lover on one hand and someone who is quite independent from you. That is your wife. Wife is some human being which you don't know, some usual person
which has nothing to do with you. And at the same time, she
will be your friend, or your best friend, and someone who you love most. Your
wife has two sides -- just ordinary an person and someone who you love.
Okay? --------------------------- Excerpt from Shunryu Suzuki lecture - 68-11-11 as found on shunryusuzuki.com. Edited by DC - Going through Suzuki lectures and posting anything that can stand on its own. Not looking for zingers or "the best of." I find that following these excerpts daily provides another way to experience Suzuki's teaching. - DC [DC comment - I think maybe Suzuki just heard "marriage" and not "with Buddha."]
